Ten.Two Thousand One Hundred

1. I still need to remind myself what day it is.

2. It’s already hot.

3. Things were not as they seemed. That is a good thing.

4. We talk about his upcoming trip and the Barbie movie, and the poem she wrote.

5. Or maybe they are. I listen but try not to look like I’m listening too closely. I can’t differentiate between the quirky way in which he talks and his nervousness. My gut tells me it’s his nerves.

6. It’s a bit anticlimactic, unfortunately.

7. We make a few stops on our way back. The extra time feels like a gift. I don’t really have anywhere to be.

8. I tell her I’m not sure if it’s still Covid brain or life, or maybe it’s just that I don’t care anymore, but I feel like I have no more creativity left.

9. I tell him that the day was just weird. That everything is getting worse.

10. They don’t get it.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-Nine

1. Work-from-home Monday. No coffee.

2. But I think about her being in the office all alone, and I wonder if it’s a good idea after all - even though I know it’s better for me mentally.

3. Something must change.

4. He asks me about my list blogging. I tell him I’m just on an Instagram break, but it’s here. It’s always here. I sometimes forget how many people read this thing.

5. It’s the season of football hoodie. But the hood is not up anymore. Things are changing.

6. I can’t tell them what my real plans are for the day.

7. 11? What happened to 17? His answer is logical: there is no 17 in any other sport he plays. So 11 it is? Eleven it is.

8. She calls me and tells me things that also make me concerned, but my job is to try to maintain a sense of calm. What I really want to tell her is that it’s time to run.

9. He (rightly) tells them I’m unavailable for more volunteer positions.

10. The Mandalorian lego is done! And it shoots projectiles.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-Eight

1. Don’t want to get up.

2. Struggling. That tightness in the clavicle and the numbness in my elbow. Yoga is hard today.

3. Meal plan drudgery.

4. The sun is already coming out.

5. “What happened to the mirror?” “What?” Must have been the carwash.

6. I don’t want to do anything, and I am trying not to feel bad about it.

7. No work.

8. Mandalorian time. This looks more fun to him now.

9. Six instead of seven.

10. School night. Phone retrieval. Not too much fighting about it.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-Seven

1. Football practice.

2. Sweatshirt and jeans and a Yeti of coffee. Foggy and overcast skies. The feeling of turf underfoot.

3. Cleaning, cleaning, more cleaning.

4. I love this home.

5. I move things with my mind. That could go there, and this should be here, and maybe we add one more over there. My body is too tired to do it, though.

6. Where is she?

7. I want to scream and throw things. This is not about this, but about other “this”s. I think of what can be done. I slide my feet into the sandals and walk a loop. It helps a little.

8. I grab the Mandolorian lego kit and sit on the floor of my bedroom and decide that this will help but I am missing two pieces. I can’t go any further.

9. Traditional Ethiopian food. 2011 Trimbach Gewurtztraminer. Pound cake with a fig compote. I tell her that next time, I’ll make macaroni and cheese.

10. Way past my bedtime.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-Six

1. Friday from home.

2. This feels more like it.

3. I make a coffee that I don’t drink. That short little stint is over.

4. I gather the data and get excited about what we might be able to do with this information. If only I could do more of this.

5. What am I doing this weekend? Going to football practice.

6. There are things that just don’t make sense, and maybe it’s not my job to make it all make sense.

7. I miss this.

8. I am tired. Too tired to do all of the things I meant to do after the “real” work. I remind myself that it is okay to rest.

9. Tomorrow.

10. I know what I need.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-Five

1. Second day. Let’s try it again.

2. Extra time.

3. Customary cup of coffee for morning drop off even though I know I won’t drink any of it.

4. “Create the structure you need.”

5. I can barely keep my eyes open. I am alone in the office. I turn on her yoga playlist and contemplate laying on the floor until the next person comes in.

6. I remember there is something to look forward to today.

7. I’m glad it’s not just me.

8. Vietnamese chicken salad, but where is the chicken? At least there is a breeze.

9. A sign of hope? Maybe?

10. The second agreement: Don’t take anything personally.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-Four

1. I can’t remember the details of the dream, only that I needed to do something.

2. First day. First day.

3. I open the can of cinnamon rolls, and it doesn’t just pop. It bursts. Sticky cinnamon crumbs splatter across the front of my white dress.

4. Still feeling unprepared.

5. Look at these faces. Another year. Another stairstep photo in the trees.

6. “It’s your favorite day,” she says. “I literally was about to say that.”

7. “Whose number is this?”

8. His energy is just always different when he’s had a good day, and today, even though he had to go to school, he definitely had a good day.

9. This back-and-forth is too much.

10. They are coming while I am going.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-Three

1. Tomorrow is the first day of school.

2. How is all of this going to work? We’ll make a way someway.

3. The back of the golf cart is a different experience. More like a ride. The cool morning air slips through the opening of my blazer.

4. Late.

5. Distracted by all of the things.

6. Most of parenthood is logistics management. Who needs to be where when, and how will they get there, and how much will it cost?

7. What would be ideal?

8. She says it was nice; it was worth it.

9. All of this year has been like this.

10. Back to school.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-Two

1. Monday.

2. A work-from-home morning walk.

3. It’s already so warm that I need to ditch the jacket.

4. Her. Her face and her smile and the ways her eyes twinkle. For having the space to do some truth-telling.

5. I tell her that this is one of the reasons I need a little bit more freedom. To be able to prioritize walks like these.

6. I survive the mall and buy everyone a cup of mall pretzels.

7. Waiting for emails.

8. Everyone looks so good in the pictures. Our first real family photo ever. Only took 15 years.

9. I see a little bit of a smile on his face.

10. School starts in two days.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety-One

1. I know what I need to do.

2. Stomach pain. Last night’s pasta?

3. The downside of being underneath all of these trees.

4. Water and morning pages. All the thoughts. I decide that yes, we should go to the beach today.

5. PB & J - light on the J.

6. I love the cues nature gives you to let you know you are entering another landscape, a new adventure.

7. The line to park at the beach is about a mile long. We watch people turn their cars around; get out of their car and try to see how much further until they get to the beach; park in the neighborhoods and walk down the hill with all of their things, stopping to pick up whatever has fallen off the cart.

8. It was worth the wait.

9. I burn my thighs walking up the sand dune. I want a different view.

10. Yes. Worth the wait.

Ten.Two Thousand & Ninety

1. Yoga Saturday.

2. I forgot about the olive oil cake!

3. Everything is tight, tight, tight. That’s just stress.

4. I run through the events of the week in my head. Something has to change, but I don’t know what and I don’t know how.

5. I just want to find my clarity.

6. I wait patiently for the clerk to bring my items to the car. In my side mirrors I watch folks load cases of water in the trunks of their cars and fill their hands with plastic bags. I imagine the kind of excitement they have planned for their day.

7. The last of the bathrooms.

8. Chicken tenders and french fries and rosé. It’s cool in the shade. Adults on one end. Each set of children at a different table but all in a line.

9. I can’t think anymore.

10. Chicken alfredo and a cookies and cream ice cream cake for his belated birthday meals. I look at the three of them all smiling, all helping one another. At least I’m doing something right.

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-Nine

1. TGIF.

2. I can’t remember the dream, but I remember the feeling of the dream.

3. Today feels like a good day for writing.

4. “How do you manage your stress and anxiety? I’m always asking myself what would you do?” “I’m flattered. I cry.” “Perhaps I just need to cry more.”

5. We all decide that yesterday was a good day and a very good way to spend the afternoon together. More of this, please.

6. Salad and laughter. The three of us. But if not for this place, I would not have them.

7. Thank you for letting me vent.

8. “The morning after our fifth date, he stood in the kitchen, shirtless, bathed in the clean light of summer morning. Aaron glowed gold. I traced the muscles of his back with my fingertips before wrapping my arms around his waist, resting my head in the space between his shoulder blades, and watched the prairie grasses dip in the wind.”

9. I read over the words. I know that this is the block. That if I can get this out and done, then I can move on.

10. “Are you happy? Are you happy? Are you happy?”

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-Eight

1. A Thursday that feels like Friday.

2. For various reasons, I feel incredibly unprepared.

3. Something is off. Maybe it’s the nose ring. Maybe it’s the sobering reality of returning from a vacation. Maybe it’s the gray morning. Maybe it’s something I will never know.

4. He beat me to the office today. He tells me about his paper and a new citation tool his advisor showed him and

5. I can see it on her face as soon as I walk in.

6. I cancel the games and tell them I’m happy I got to see so many of them this summer. They send back gratitudes.

7. We tell her that once those sliding glass doors close, this is a safe space.

8. She asks a question, and I laugh so hard I spit water out onto my computer. And I can’t stop laughing.

9. Five of us are in the office. We need a day like this. I am pouring water into a wine glass from a large pitcher. She is giving her a lesson on social media. And she is also giggling quietly; it will take her some time to realize she’s safe with us. And she is trying to actually do some work, but there is no way she can focus with all of the giggling going on.

10. I feel a little guilty, a little sad, a little frustrated, a little lucky.

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-Seven

1. In the dream, she tells me about these people and this place. She says that sleeping arrangements might be tight, but it’s worth it for the experience of being away in the woods. Her car squeezes through a treelined road before it stops in front of the house. As we walk into the home, she warns me once more that things are a little different in this place. I wander around the house. There are people slowly starting to fill in. Even though the home is large, the air is shrinking. I go into various rooms and realize that all of the locks are on the exterior of the door. They are large rectangular locks that slide across the door frame. There are no handles and no way to unlock the doors from the insides of the rooms. I start to worry. I want to yell for my friend and tell her that I need to get out, but I am too scared to say anything for some reason. I begin to hear doors closing shut.

2. It’s mentioned in the report, so I think I should probably go to the early meeting.

3. I forgot about breakfast.

4. 2014 Mouton Rothschild. 2017 Sine Qua Non, The Hated Hunter.

5. But what would I do without her?

6. We could try it, but it’s going to change whether you like it or not.

7. There is nothing to be afraid of here.

8. Did I eat lunch?

9. School starts in one week. One week!

10. 12.

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-Six

1. I take a corner piece of brownie for breakfast.

2. I wanted to get my steps in, but I’ll take a ride today. There will be plenty of time for walking.

3. I forgot.

4. We forget that a workplace is made up of real people with real things that go on outside of the four walls or hundreds of acres of trees.

5. Delightful.

6. Note to self: burger day makes the office smell like onions.

7. Why is this a question of whether or not I have time?

8. Literally, everyone plays volleyball?

9. She says she wasn’t meant to have a job that she just checks in and out of. She wants to be ain a place that keeps her engaged and interested, and challenged. It has to be meaningful.

10. What if it all falls apart?

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-Five

1. Monday, Monday, Monday.

2. I hit send.

3. The crunch of gravel underneath my heels and the cars zooming up and down the trail.

4. Not long enough, I say to myself. But I try to remember that it is a gift.

5. The extra soy sauce was a bad idea.

6. I think of all the things that need to be done before school begins again. How is it already time? Why do I feel like I’m out of time?

7. “Everyone went on vacation at the same time. Everyone quit at the same time.” I laugh and laugh and laugh. He probably doesn’t think it’s as funny as I do.

8. Defense day.

9. I explain what I’m thinking, and I think he gets it.

10. Shower dancing.

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-Four

1. Take me back to the beach.

2. A more energetic flow for today’s yoga session.

3. The way the sunlight illuminates different parts of her: her hands, a portion of her face, a sliver of the arms. Perfectly golden.

4. I turn too sharply and bump the side of the fridge. I watch the ceramic mug crack into several pieces, coffee all over the refrigerator door.

5. Pomodoro technique. “I am a fast writer,” I say to myself before I begin.

6. More emails.

7. Today’s call is long even though I don’t have much to share.

8. Still daydreaming about yesterday’s naps on the beach. Yes, more of this, please.

9. Doing more by doing less. That is the goal.

10. Tomorrow.

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-Three

1. Cleaning day.

2. He asks if I want to go to the beach. I can’t remember the last time I’ve been.

3. We grab cheese and crackers and chips and yellow kiwis.

4. Talyor Swift all the way there.

5. It’s still overcast, but the sand is warm. We set up a few chairs and lay out the blankets. I quickly find myself on my back, face toward the soft glow of the sun pushing through the fog. There is laughter and baby squeals but mostly just the roar of the ocean.

6. I wake up and eat a handful of cherries before falling asleep again.

7. Someone has started a very lively game of beach volleyball right behind us. It’s not that I don’t want anyone to have fun, but must we be so shrill? I eat some gummy worms and lay back down.

8. I manage to sleep most of the afternoon, feeling the cool ocean breezes on my cheeks and listening to the rhythmic sounds of the waves. I could do this every day. I want to do this every day.

9. “They should know by now that if they don’t do the trips, they don’t get the treats.”

10. Ceviche tostadas and chenin blanc.

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-Two

1. Finally Friday. It’s been the longest short week.

2. He asks me to take him to the gym before I go to work. I pack up my things and bring my journal with me and write while he shoots around.

3. First one in.

4. He asks me why she seemed frustrated. I explain, but I don’t know if he’s really listening.

5. Good enough for today.

6. He fills me in on what I’ve missed, how no news is good news, and how he’s ready for the next thing. I make him promise to tell me he’s leaving before he’s leaving.

7. These meals with her outside on the deck are my favorite. It’s like being at home but not. It is quiet. Birds float from tree to tree. Small black lizards dart across the gravel paths. Still, no rattlers, thank goodness.

8. We talk about her future and how we should make a plan for her. She says this room is a safe space for her.

9. I feel the weight of my worries in every limb these days.

10. Slow down the time.

Ten.Two Thousand & Eighty-One

1. Now it’s Thursday.

2. Work from home day. Headache. Dentist. Meeting.

3. On the verge of tears. What is it? Just stress.

4. I am not in the mood, and twice, I think about getting out of the chair.

5. I tell him that we just don’t want to have to fight for the truth.

6. I know that the little mistakes being made are because I’m disengaged. I don’t care anymore, and that’s a problem.

7. I eat the entire plate. Something in my brain flips. Anger.

8. Rat in a cage.

9. He says no party, just money for stocks.

10. I just want to feel like I felt while I was gone.